Dating and separated men
It’s true that, like commitment-minded women who avoid separated men, men who are genuinely looking for a long-term relationship will steer clear of separated women.They know well from their own experience the emotional roller coaster the divorce process brings, and that separated women may not be ready for a serious relationship despite truly believing they are. A separated woman is less likely to pressure a guy for marriage (and children) because she’s still legally married and may already have a family of her own. The time after a marriage ends is often a time for experimentation.You may have to wait longer to meet his children, family and friends.If he means enough to you to have a relationship with him, you have to be willing to wait until he is comfortable.Some women choose to avoid this situation altogether, vowing to only date men who are free and clear.
Instead of playing, these women end up getting played.
While he is still legally married, though, it is important to be careful. It is likely that if anyone finds out you are dating, it will have a negative impact on his divorce proceedings, especially if there are children involved.
This might mean that you go on dates in another town or do not go out to many public places.
Unfortunately, there are many men who are all too aware of the benefits that come with dating separated women and see them as moving targets for their womanizing ways. Remember the girl who lived in your dorm during freshman year of college, the one who grew up with strict parents? That said, just because a woman feels sexually charged and invigorated doesn’t mean she is in the market for being used. As much as a woman may want to reinvent the wheel with someone new, she remains in legal limbo until her divorce is final. After being in a monogamous relationship with one man for many years, many women see separation as a chance to meet new people, those with backgrounds and interests differing from their own.
Consequently, separated women unaware of their “street value” may unsuspectingly find themselves duped by players who knowingly take advantage of them or by emotionally unavailable men with a pattern of excited starts and abrupt stops. The one who began having her very own sexual revolution with guy after guy the minute she was out of her parents’ sight? After spending a long time in a marriage, one plagued with problems as evidenced by its imminent end, separation often becomes the time for women to rediscover a sexual identity that may have been repressed for years. Female sexuality should never be confused with promiscuity or cheapened morals. Great for a guy who is tired of a population of women questioning him on a first date if his taxi light is on or when it will be, and the ticking sound of his dinner date’s biological clock. What outsiders may see as an unlikely pairing could actually become a satisfying relationship because we don’t know always know what we are missing until we find it. At the other extreme are women eager to head back down the aisle.
But be honest with him if you feel you cannot meet those expectations, especially if he expresses that he has no desire to ever marry again and that is a goal for you.