Early stages in dating
And if you react emotionally all the time, over time he will come to see you as less of a challenge.
You must know by now that the number one pet peeve for men is a needy girlfriend.
He´s very unlikely to initiate that serious talk with you and you certainly won´t hear him say, “Honey, we need to talk. Pulling back is also necessary for him to figure out if you´re the type of woman that he wants to marry.
I need to know where I stand with you.” Instead, he will pull back. When you react emotionally, it gives him a feeling of control.
As the gatekeeper to sex who´s already in love with him, you are likely to surrender the key to the gate early while having a totally different expectations than his.
Are you willing to stretch, bow and bend backward just to have a relationship with him? Get occupied with other things that will take your mind off him. If he comes back and you want to give him another chance, the ball should be in your court.
Are you desperate to have a relationship with him and have you been sending him that message? Don´t drop everything and see this guy the same day he finally decides to see you.
Sherry Argov, in her book, , calls this a man´s mind game or “mental challenge”.
“It´s human nature for a man to test the waters”, says Argov, “he wants to see how much he can get away with.” Early in dating, starting from day one, he´s already calculating how much he can get away with.
If you´re upset, it sends him the clear message how much you want this relationship.